A month ago I posted some advice and tips on what to look for that isn’t working in your plan to lose weight. This time I want to focus on your attitude and your thinking.
In addition to doing the right things, I want to you take a look at what’s rolling around in your head.
– Are you convinced that this is a quick fix and that you just have to grin and bear it while you reach your weight loss goal then celebrate the smaller you with a celebratory meal? If you’re just focusing on fast results and aren’t focusing on your overall health and wellbeing maybe it’s a bigger let down when the scale doesn’t move fast enough. I’d like to suggest that you focus on a plan that will sustain rather than hinder your health. Is this something you could do for the rest of your life? When you are eating a clean, nutritarian diet you’re getting so much more out of it than just weight loss. Your health will improve, your weight will drop and you’ll feel great too.
– Do you trust your body? I know that sounds odd, but are you fighting your body every step of the way? Are you mad at your body for betraying you and are you pushing it too hard? How about you promise to provide your body with the healthy food and movement it needs and trust that your body will turn on it’s natural healing ability and shed the unnecessary fat?
– Are you competing against someone or doing this to prove something to someone? That is a negative mindset and I’m not convinced it will give you the boost you need to remain consistent and in the right frame of mind when faced with a challenge. Why are you doing this? Make a list of the positives reasons why you are doing this and post it in a visible area. Refer to it so you can remind yourself.
– Are you putting yourself first? Are you feeling guilty about taking the extra time for yourself to step away from your family or duties to exercise and plan your meals? Are your workouts happening haphazardly when you find the time or are you making time for them?
– Where is your support system? Are your friends and family available for you to talk to? Do you have a workout buddy that you can check in with each day or week to keep each other on track? Is your family bringing food into the house that sabotages your efforts?
– Do you love yourself? Don’t wait until you’re smaller or firmer to love yourself. You need to love yourself now before you are able to take good care of yourself. Do you get that? How can you become healthier and better if you hate yourself. What kind of care will you provide for yourself if you can’t embrace where you are now? OWN IT. Don’t hate yourself. Forgive yourself for your past mistakes and for whatever shape you’re in now and move forward.
– Do you think losing weight is hard and near impossible? If you believe it you will receive it. Why not do some work on changing that mindset? Look at the overall downward trend and the progress rather than the weekly number.
That’s it. I’m sure there are a lot more things that float through your mind and make this process seem so much harder but I’d like you to examine where your head is in this game and tweaking some of the negative thoughts that pop into your head.
This is a journey and you’ll get there one step at a time. Enjoy the journey and see it as a way to love yourself and let the magic happen.
I’d love to know what is on your mind. Send me a message!!
Do you feel guilty taking time for yourself? Do you put yourself last? Do you do things for everyone else but forget your own needs? You’re not doing yourself a favour. As a mother who works outside the home I used to put myself last because my family needed me and I wanted to make sure all their needs were met. By the end of the evening I was tired and didn’t have the time or energy to exercise.
Guess what? I decided to take better care of myself because my kids started to notice that I wasn’t wearing a bathing suit and I wasn’t playing with them as much as I used to. I was watching from the sidelines and had no desire to put on a swimsuit and frolic in the water. Funny isn’t it? No time to consider exercise because I was busy with my kids and I wasn’t making memories with them because I didn’t exercise and take care of myself.
I started by changing my eating. I wanted to be healthy and I wanted to lose weight fast (don’t we all?). I adopted a plant based, whole foods diet by following the advice in Eat to Live. Two years later I discovered T-Tapp and I took on exercise consistently. T-Tapp made sense because I could do it from home and it looked pretty impressive. I told my husband that my exercise time was for me and that unless someone was in a coma or bleeding profusely that they should pretend I wasn’t home. With that understanding I set aside that time and did it. I wasn’t being selfish and I wasn’t neglecting anyone. Most importantly I was getting stronger and more fit so I could run after my kids and partake in activities that they enjoyed.
So how will you squeeze this in? Look at your priorities. Make a list of what is most important to you. Make sure your health and wellness is in the top 5. Why do you want to do this? How will you and your family benefit if you’re healthier? Carve out some time to exercise or plan your meals and take those steps for YOU!
Let me know what you’re planning for yourself in 2012. I’d love to hear it and if I can help you in any way please let me know.
Posted in Eat to Live, Exercise, Healthy Eating, Motivation, T-Tapp
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This comment has been floating around in my mind for a week and it was amazing what an impact it had on me. I posted a comment on Sandi Krakowski‘s wall and ended it with “a champion in progress” since I’m new to this whole serious blogging world and bringing my business online. She replied that I am a champion and that it’s my business that is in progress. So true and so perfect.
All week this has proved the perfect little phrase when I beat myself up for not having a stellar week. I haven’t been sleeping enough and haven’t been taking good care of myself as well I should some days. I tell myself I’m a failure and that I’m hopeless…then BOOM…a voice comes on and reminds me that I am a champion. I think of what I have accomplished and it encourages me to keep going. I am perfect already and so are you. Those changes that we want to make and those goals we have are in progress but one slip here or there does not dictate our future.
I was feeling low and someone told me I inspired them to take charge of their life and now they’ve lost 85lbs. I am humbled because a few hours before I think I’m a failure and this woman is telling me I’m an inspiration. Clearly I am not completely a failure right? We really do have to think about what is swirling around in our head because we’re apt to believe it and not take those chances or make those choices because we limit or sabotage ourselves even before we’ve started something.
Does all this sound familiar?
I’m thinking that I need to be more of an owner and less of a victim at times when I get a negative thought making it’s way into my head. A victim complains and thinks their circumstances dictate what is happening to them but an owner takes the problem and takes action….it’s no longer a problem because they are focused on the solution. Sounds like something a champion would do eh?
Of course, getting more sleep this week would really help me feel better too! Yeah, I’m busy but I don’t need to feel sorry for myself and whine about it. Time to go from victim to owner and change my reactions to the challenging times because I am a champion after all! I can’t change what I’ve done but I can choose my next steps to better serve my goals.
So let’s go…you are a champion…don’t give up!!