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You deserve to be healthy and reshape your body!

Do you feel guilty taking time for yourself? Do you put yourself last? Do you do things for everyone else but forget your own needs?  You’re not doing yourself a favour.  As a mother who works outside the home I used to put myself last because my family needed me and I wanted to make sure all their needs were met.  By the end of the evening I was tired and didn’t have the time or energy to exercise.

Guess what? I decided to take better care of myself because my kids started to notice that I wasn’t wearing a bathing suit and I wasn’t playing with them as much as I used to.  I was watching from the sidelines and had no desire to put on a swimsuit and frolic in the water.  Funny isn’t it? No time to consider exercise because I was busy with my kids and I wasn’t making memories with them because I didn’t exercise and take care of myself.

I started by changing my eating.  I wanted to be healthy and I wanted to lose weight fast (don’t we all?).  I adopted a plant based, whole foods diet by following the advice in Eat to Live.  Two years later I discovered T-Tapp and I took on exercise consistently.  T-Tapp made sense because I could do it from home and it looked pretty impressive.  I told my husband that my exercise time was for me and that unless someone was in a coma or bleeding profusely that they should pretend I wasn’t home.  With that understanding I set aside that time and did it.  I wasn’t being selfish and I wasn’t neglecting anyone.  Most importantly I was getting stronger and more fit so I could run after my kids and partake in activities that they enjoyed.

So how will you squeeze this in? Look at your priorities. Make a list of what is most important to you.  Make sure your health and wellness is in the top 5.  Why do you want to do this?  How will you and your family benefit if you’re healthier?  Carve out some time to exercise or plan your meals and take those steps for YOU!

Let me know what you’re planning for yourself in 2012.  I’d love to hear it and if I can help you in any way please let me know.

Here Come the Parties…plan ahead!

Switching to a new way of eating or sticking to your guns can be stressful during social situations.  It took me two years to muster up the courage to not eat what was offered when we went to visit people because I was afraid I was going to offend someone.  This wasn’t working too well for me because I’d drive home feeling awful and I knew it had to stop.

Now I plan ahead and with a few tips and tricks it can be a successful evening with no scrapes and scratches AND no upset stomach.  You can too rather than sabotage your efforts.

1. Eating out at a restaurant – If you can pick the restaurant pick something that has better options for you.  If you’re not sure check out the menu online.  If you can’t pick then make sure you can check out the menu first.  It makes it so much easier.  If not, call the restaurant and tell them that you have dietary restrictions and that you eat a low-fat, whole foods, vegan diet with no added salt.  Trust me…if you say it like that you won’t end up with salmon or a veggie lasagne loaded with cream and cheese as a “vegetarian option”.  Ask them if this is something they can accommodate and you might even have a very excited chef prepare a fabulous meal for you.  If you’re not successful in scoping out the menu before hand then there are options such as salads with no dressing (bring your own or use balsamic vinegar) or a baked potato with no toppings and have steamed veggies.  Baked potatoes are great with some salsa or pico de gallo! That’s my standard at Red Lobster along with two orders of steamed broccoli.

2. Potluck – That is the best option because you bring something you like to eat and you can share with others.  I like to make something that is zesty and flavourful so people won’t miss the salt and I’m all about the flavour anyway.  I like to make Jerk-style black beans and serve it over brown rice.  It’s usually a big hit!  This is also the best choice because your friends and family can see that you eat tasty food (unless you’re a bad cook…hahahaha)

3. Family or Friend’s house – Ask the hostess what’s on the menu and ask if you can bring something to share.  If they love you they’ll respect your wishes but it doesn’t hurt to let them know that you’re afraid to eat too many things that aren’t in line with your current diet because sometimes other people say you might not feel well.  Bring along a side dish or a main entree depending on what you discuss with the hostess.  If she insists on making something vegetarian for you tell her you appreciate it but don’t want to give her extra work.  Again…this may save you from eating processed foods or cheese or eggs if that’s not currently in your diet.

The key is to keep calm and not force what you’re doing down anyone else’s throat or make them feel inadequate because they are all indulging while you’re “being good” or “being strong” or even “being stubborn” depending on who you’re with.  If someone brings something for you or insists you taste something they made “just for you” then be very gracious and thank them for thinking of you and caring about you.  Don’t make them feel rejected.  Taste it if you feel that is better for the relationship and share it with others or take the rest home with you and do what you will.

If you’re at a stage that you do want to indulge and you do want to taste some dessert then you could eat lighter throughout the day.  Sometimes I’ll focus on getting all my fruits and veggies in for the day and save space for the extra food.  Remember that if you’re not prone to falling off course and can handle the sampling and it truly is a big celebration then that extra bite of a dessert will not ruin everything.  I’ve been known to eat salad only for dinner but then having an ice cream for dessert.

Since I don’t preach to others about my choices and their choices I’m usually respected for my own choices as well.

Have fun and don’t fret too much.  Love life, eat healthy, exercise and you will lose weight!

 

You ARE a Champion!

This comment has been floating around in my mind for a week and it was amazing what an impact it had on me. I posted a comment on Sandi Krakowski‘s wall and ended it with “a champion in progress” since I’m new to this whole serious blogging world and bringing my business online. She replied that I am a champion and that it’s my business that is in progress. So true and so perfect.

All week this has proved the perfect little phrase when I beat myself up for not having a stellar week. I haven’t been sleeping enough and haven’t been taking good care of myself as well I should some days. I tell myself I’m a failure and that I’m hopeless…then BOOM…a voice comes on and reminds me that I am a champion. I think of what I have accomplished and it encourages me to keep going.  I am perfect already and so are you.  Those changes that we want to make and those goals we have are in progress but one slip here or there does not dictate our future.

I was feeling low and someone told me I inspired them to take charge of their life and now they’ve lost 85lbs. I am humbled because a few hours before I think I’m a failure and this woman is telling me I’m an inspiration.  Clearly I am not completely a failure right? We really do have to think about what is swirling around in our head because we’re apt to believe it and not take those chances or make those choices because we limit or sabotage ourselves even before we’ve started something.

Does all this sound familiar?

I’m thinking that I need to be more of an owner and less of a victim at times when I get a negative thought making it’s way into my head. A victim complains and thinks their circumstances dictate what is happening to them but an owner takes the problem and takes action….it’s no longer a problem because they are focused on the solution. Sounds like something a champion would do eh?

Of course, getting more sleep this week would really help me feel better too!  Yeah, I’m busy but I don’t need to feel sorry for myself and whine about it.  Time to go from victim to owner and change my reactions to the challenging times because I am a champion after all!  I can’t change what I’ve done but I can choose my next steps to better serve my goals.

So let’s go…you are a champion…don’t give up!!